There is a long history of men's support groups at First Unitarian Church of San José going back more than 25 years. There have been two or three individual groups with eight to 10 members each. Currently, groups meet on the second and fourth Monday evenings in homes or at the church with joint social meetings quarterly. Normal meetings follow these principles:
1) They are not social groups, but support groups, that encourage deep sharing with attentive and supportive listening.
2) All proceedings are treated as confidential.
3) Everyone has the right to reticence or no comment.
4) Attendance is expected regularly, it is not a casual drop-in meeting.
5) Discussion is nonjudgmental with "I" statements encouraged such as, "If that were me I would feel this way..."
Membership is open, but potential new members are invited to lunch beforehand so the group's principles can be explained and understood fully. The importance of the commitment to attendance is emphasized. There is a history of age and racial diversity in these groups. If you are interested in joining a men's group, the church ministers are the initial contact.